Why We Care About The Little Things That Impact Our Appearance

It’s 7:00 am and it’s time for me to get ready for the day. I’m feeling a little lazy, but I have somewhere to be.

So I put on some leggings and a tunic. I don’t really like them, but I want something comfortable, so I suppose this will do. I look in the mirror, trying to decide if I feel like fixing my hair. I see my outfit and think to myself, “Wow, I do not like the way this looks on me!” But it’s too late to change.

I leave my hair in a ponytail, even though I don’t like the way ponytails look on me either. I take my time drinking my coffee and get in a good few minutes browsing Pinterest while feeding breakfast to two toddlers. Since I’ve run out of time, I don’t put on makeup. As I head out the door I catch a glimpse of the dark circles under my eyes, and notice my lips look pale. Yeesh. I don’t like the look of that either.

Now it’s a different day, 7:00 am, and it’s time for me to get ready. I’m feeling a little lazy, but I have somewhere to be.

I want to be comfortable, but I always feel great when I look nice, so I grab some super soft, stretchy jeans that I think are cute, and my favorite black shirt. I look in the mirror, trying to decide if I feel like fixing my hair. I don’t feel like fixing it, but I do always feel nicer when I wear it down, so I turn on my flat iron and take 2 minutes to make my hair decent. I enjoy my cup of coffee and browse Pinterest for a bit, feed the toddlers, and then remember that I also always feel better with some makeup on. I don’t have much time, so I just make sure my face looks bright, healthy, and awake. Perhaps a little tinted moisturizer, mascara, and a quick lip color.

As I walk out the door, I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. I’m pleasantly surprised by what I see, and it feels nice! I don’t look as lazy as I felt this morning!

I hope you see the difference that I see in these two scenarios.

I hope you see that I did not make significantly different effort in these scenarios, but the results were significant.

I hope you recognize that the problem with the first scenario, with the ponytail and the tunic and no makeup, had nothing to do with specific fashion choices, and everything to do with my preferences. None of my choices made me feel good. And none of them were necessary.

Likewise, the more cheery results in the second scenario also had nothing to do with specific fashion choices, but preferences. Each choice was a small one that required very little thought, but had a massive impact on the rest of my day!

That is why I am bringing up appearance. I know appearance can be a bit of a trigger word for some people. But I’m not here to tell you that one look is good and one look is bad. I’m not here to tell you your style should look like mine.

I am here to present to you this radical idea that only a tiny bit of effort can mean the difference between you feeling amazing and feeling gross.

What wonderful news for all of us who don’t have time, don’t have energy, or don’t have the desire to put very much thought into our appearance! And I will be honest with you: I don’t!

It’s such a bother to get ready for the day! Do you feel the same way?

I don’t always like to put effort into my appearance, but I can tell you this: when I like the way I look, I feel great! I feel more relaxed, I feel a little more energetic, I feel more confident.

I don’t know why it works that way, but it does. I’m guessing you’ve experienced this before too, and you know what I’m talking about!

If you’re happy with what you have going on right now, please, feel free to move on and come back later for a different post! I’m talking to you, the one who kind of wishes she could look a little cuter, or a little nicer, or a little ….. Whatever it is for you.

I want you to know that you’re not stuck there! You absolutely can be happier with your appearance, or your routine, and you don’t have to experience a major life upheaval to get there!

Change might come slowly for you. That’s how it has been for me! Every year I’ve gotten just a little bit closer to that happy place. But I’m so happy that I have at least tried. Because each little step brings me further and further away from the scenarios I don’t like, and closer to what I do like. Each little step matters!

The #1 thing that I have learned is that I must do what counts.

When you have limited resources, you have to make smart decisions! So I pick the things that make the most difference to me. Not to you, not to your mom, not to your boyfriend’s dog…. We need to do the things that make a difference for us.

Some of you do not care about makeup, but you feel gross without a shower. Keep taking those showers! Always! Why? Because that makes a difference for you. Forget makeup, if you don’t think it makes a difference. Focus on what counts the most!

For some of you it’s not the shower. You just feel half dead without some mascara on!

Wear the mascara!

Next time I will share some specific ways you can start practicing making the little things count in you life. Stay tuned!

My goal is to always make these posts quick and easy to read for you all, so I've split this topic into two parts, to honor your time! Thank you for reading along! Please, share your thoughts below! Comments always make things more engaging for everyone, and I want to hear from you!