Why I Don't Want To Write A Mom Blog

Aren't I supposed to write about #momlife? Or at least about fashion or weeknight dinner recipes or makeup tutorials?




I mean, what else would I write about, right? I'm a mom, I cook, I wear makeup, clothes are cool..... At the very least, I'm obviously going to be writing stuff mostly meant for women.


But I really, really really have not wanted to write about any of those topics.

I think I know why now....


1. I Don't Like Expectations


I don't really like doing what people expect me to do. It's built into my personality. I could let that make me obnoxious, but I don't want to do that. So I can harness that energy to break through into amazing, new things!

(Do you know Gretchen Rubin's "Four Tendencies"? If you're familiar with it, you can probably guess what tendency I am!)


I do hate to be embarrassed, and I do care what people think. But it's natural for me to enjoy doing what's not necessarily expected. (Example - my high school competitive speech was about Russian Organized Crime. I loved the looks on people's faces when I told them my topic. I preferred a tilt of the head over a nod of understanding.)


2. I'm Not "Into" Motherhood


I don't love mom life right now, and, frankly, I get tired of talking about it. I want an escape from the "mommy" things.

I have felt guilty about this before, but realize now that those guilty feelings are *BOGUS.*

I love my kids! And they will be tiny for such a short time! Soon they'll be grown, like regular people!

You know, we remind people of this a lot - "Before you know it, they'll be grown and gone!" I have noticed this is often taken as an admonishment to cherish the precious times (which we should!) and rarely as a reminder that this is a small part of our life.

Hugely important? Yes. But definitely not the only important thing! I've always known that I'm not defined by my motherhood. And I simply don't have a passion for focusing on it.


3. I Don't Want To Only Talk To Women


I have never in my life felt "called" to talk specifically to women. And "mom life" is pretty specific to women. I suppose parenting isn't, but, like I said before, I just don't have a passion for talking about parenting.

I think there's a time and a place for gender-specific things. There's something wonderful about camaraderie, and something powerful about relating to each other, and often it just happens naturally that we relate strongly to people of our own gender! But that doesn't mean you can only relate to someone of your own gender. We are all human, after all.


I also don't believe that only men can speak into that "neutral" space that encompasses all humans, so I don't feel a particular "boundary" for myself in that regard.

Point being: I don't believe that I only have things to offer women, and I honestly don't want to only offer things to women!


All this to say.....


I really wanted something different! So I decided to let myself do something different.

Oh, rest assured. I will talk about home life! You know, cleaning, organizing, etc. because I really am passionate about those things! But I won't stay there all the time.

Because I don't have to! And that makes me happy.


Were there ever any things you felt you had to do a specific way? Almost as if it was a rule?

I would love to hear your story!



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